Maybe I’m a weirdo, or maybe I’m just a hippie (not that those are, by any means, mutually exclusive states of being) but I love how much he loves to be naked. As soon as I strip off his diaper (did I mention that he’s not quite 1-year-old?) he jumps up and pats his belly and giggles and runs around like a little maniac, half crazed with joy. When he’s naked I can kiss his chubby little baby knees and pat his bum and… well… frankly, watching my happy little nudist play just makes me smile.
Naked time is actually recommended by pediatricians. It helps air out a baby’s bum – which spends so much time wet and wrapped in plastic.
So, now that we’ve reached the toasty warmth of summertime here in Michigan I’ve been letting my boy play outside in his little baby pool naked. I’m amazed at how many people are surprised by this. “Naked? Outside? Really?” Well… yes. Why in the world would I not allow this? He has a swim diaper and, if we were going to a public pool I would use it to prevent any accidents. But in our own yard… I encourage it! In fact, he had a friend over last weekend and they both enjoyed a little nakie time.
The pictures had to be edited so as not to be deleted as “inappropriate content” by Facebook.
I think the fact that people are shocked by a baby’s nudity is a symptom of a rather major problem in our society (I’m talking to the Americans now. And maybe the Canadians too. I’ve traveled to a few other countries that didn’t struggle with this issue as we do).
Here is another symptom. A few days ago I read this blog. The author writes about being concerned about walking into a room and finding her 6-year-old child with a friend of the opposite gender snuggled up in “an intimate position.” To me, they looked like a couple of puppies in a pile. They were fully clothed, watching TV. It was adorable. They are 6, for goodness sakes! Unless you’ve been teaching them some highly age-inappropriate stuff they don’t even have a concept of intimacy. They are just cuddling. Because they’re hardly more than babies and babies love to be cuddled.
But don’t we hear about these things all the time lately? Like the 1st grader who got suspended for sexual harassment because he was signing, “I’m sexy and I know it” at school.
I personally know a 6-year-old child who was arrested for playing “I’ll show you mine, if you show me yours.” Would this warrant a strong talking-to about boundaries? Absolutely. Should the police have been involved. Uh… NO. They are children. They are curious. They are incapable of sexual harassment because they have no thoughts of sex.
My daughter talks about this person or that, “being sexy.” She is 7. To her, it means they are attractive or stylish. Because she’s 7.
Or how about all the hullabaloo about the military moms breastfeeding in uniform? In case you’ve missed every news show for the past 3 days, here is the offending picture:
Apparently this is a more important story than the collapse of the Spanish economy or the upcoming presidential election since it trumped both of those things in the news this morning. It is SO offensive that people are comparing it to urinating or defecating in public while wearing a uniform. I, personally, have heard breastfeeding in public likened to public intercourse. Seriously! I couldn’t make this up if I tried.
This picture, also highlighting a woman’s breasts, is just an ordinary advertisement, the likes of which we see every day.
Am I the only one scratching my head here, trying to figure out where our priorities, as a society, lie?
Why are we so concerned about the sexual implications of naked babies and snuggling children and nursing in public, yet not concerned at all that 19-year-old women are running around in shorts so tiny the pockets hang out of the leg holes and shirts so low-cut the tops of their bras show? Would it not make more sense to encourage folks to dress with class and modesty and let children explore their bodies in innocence while they are still children? I am so confused by all this!
Why is it acceptable for Lady Gaga to be out in public/on TV/in print media like this:
But this scene of a woman feeding her baby on Sesame Street has people marching in protest?
I think that these “symptoms” are from the disease of being so lost and confused about our own sexuality that we no longer have any idea of what is sexual and what isn’t. We’ve strayed so far from the idea of monogamy within the bounds of marriage that we are drowning in a sea of sexual perversion. We’ve allowed media and public policy to completely distort our thoughts and actions. Maybe if we, as adults, put some clothes on and kept our sex private we wouldn’t be so concerned about our children acting inappropriately.
How can we be such prudes on one hand and so completely immodest on the other?
Am I the only one so very confused by all this?