When The Going Gets Tough…

The guys who saved my mama!

The guys who saved my mama!

A little less than two weeks ago my mom posted a status update on Facebook. “It’s a beautiful day. Headed to the pool.” About an hour later I got a text: “Mom had a heart attack. She’s on the ambulance now. Oldest sister is flying out ASAP.”  In the hours that followed the messages involved, “She coded. They shocked her five times and brought her back.” and “Being life-flighted to Vegas.”

My mom just turned 80 years old. She is the youngest old lady you could ever meet. She’s healthy and strong and active. She plays cards and dances and flirts with the lawn boy. No one saw it coming. Thanks be to God and some excellent care takers she is back home and recovering.

In the meantime, middle sister and I were getting messages from our stepmom.

“Dad isn’t eating well. He’s in a lot of pain. Still no answers.”  Finally, today, the call was, “Dad has been admitted to the hospital. He’s in bad shape.”

All of this came the very week that we were closing on our new house. There were papers to sign at various offices. We needed to switch all of our utilities and change our address and attend to those details. We had to be out of the old place and have it cleaned up. Handsome Hippie Hubby had to make the 18-hour trip to pick up Crazy Hippie Drummer from his grandparent’s house. We are planning Toddler-saurus Rex’s birthday party in a few days.

Ever heard that phrase, “When it rains it pours?” Yet nothing in life comes without a lesson.

Here’s what the past two weeks have taught me (or reminded me of):

Say what you need to say and do what you need to do right now. Tomorrow is NOT promised to you. What you have is THIS moment. Don’t waste it.

There is good stress (a new house. Yay!) and bad stress (loved ones are ill. Boo.) but it’s all stressful. It’s OK to say, “No. I’m not OK. I’m overwhelmed.”

In times of great stress people may lash out. Don’t take it personally. It really has nothing to do with you.

When you’re holding on by a thread it is more important than ever to look at the positive. Dwelling too much on all of the “what ifs” will make you crazy and miserable.

Every day there are a thousand little tasks that seem vitally important. They really aren’t. What’s important is taking time to let people you lover know you love them!

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About Elizabeth in MI

I'm a married mama with 2 beautiful step children, 2 from my own belly, and the best husband in the universe! I work part time at my church as a secretary and youth director and I truly enjoy 3 hour naps and reading fiction beneath my education level. Write me a note, any time at lazyhippiemama@hotmail.com. I'd love to hear from you.

6 responses »

  1. What a shock! It demonstrates to all of us that there are no guarantees. And concentrate on the important (our loved ones ) not the urgent I pray that your mom ( and dad) are fully recovered!

  2. So sorry to hear about your parents. Thank goodness for people who devote their lives to saving other people. Hope things settle down a bit for you. Take care.

  3. You have lived a week of “what if” and worry. That is my “comfort zone.” Trying hard all the time to have positive thoughts and not plan ahead for disaster is very difficult for me. I will agree, it achieves much better results and moods in the long run, but it is so f***ing hard!

  4. I am so sorry to hear all of this! It’s so difficult when parents are older and you never know what could happen tomorrow. I am sure that you cherish your loved ones every day!

  5. Everyday brings with it new challenges. Your post was inspiring. It shows resilience and strength. You should be super proud of yourself 😀

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